Is it the time to let go..

Is it the time to let go..??

Most of you would have read my previous posts “its time for a new beginning” and “A new beginning has begun” http://catalyst-resurgingdelhi.blogspot.com/ which had stories of Ricky, Sunita and their new born son Rakshit. For those of you who are not aware of their story let me give you a quick recap.

Ricky (17) and Sunita (15) joined our Reboot program about 11 months ago. Sunita at that time was about 5 months pregnant and weighed about 33kgs, which grew to about 37 kgs (after much effort) when she delivered. Their son Rakshit was a miracle as it was a normal deli

very and he w

as a 3kg healthy boy in spite of his mother’s poor health, no immunization and regular use of alcohol in the initial stages of pregnancy.

(11 months ago)

Ricky & Sunita come from the poorest of the poor background living on the streets, doing odd jobs and begging for survival. They lived in absolute filth and

most unhygienic conditions.

(At present)

Under the Reboot project; they are being mentored to lead a better life, identify or acquire a life skill that can sustain them for the rest of their lives and have a stable life. Reboot process is ideally for 6 months but since Ricky & Sunita delivered their child during the project we extended the period to a year.

Now that even a year is being completed, Ricky & Sunita have failed in all aspects of their training. There is a very strong resistance to change into a better life. They like to have filth around them, for example, plates used for food with left over would rot under their bed for several days, their clothes are always unwashed and lying in a heap. Both of them resist regular working and lack punctuality. Even letting them choose their own working hours and anything that they would like to do, they would still not fulfill the commitments.

They have also been found to be compulsive liars and have been picking up odd things from here and there without asking (which can be termed as petty theft) including money.

We have used almost all tools and methods, including physiological counseling, but there has not been much improvement. We have also over shot our budget by Rs12000, and do not have any more funding for them. Over the year we have spent about Rs 1,12,000 including the delivery expenses.

Here is the scenario; Both of them, especially Ricky, does have dreams and aspirations and taste of a better life, but not in practice. If they leave now, our investment goes waste as they will go back on the streets, now with a baby. If we keep them, they will keep taking the facilities given to them for granted, which is money raised by enormous efforts and sacrificial giving.

Since, all of you have been instrumental in bringing them so far here is my question..

IS THIS THE TIME TO LET GO..?? Your inputs will help us take the right decision

Looking at the scars can you feel the pain.. By Angelika Samuel Gier

First time when I felt the pain of burn was when I was 6 and wanted to feel the effect of molten wax on my palm. My friend and my comrade poured a lot more than What I expected and aaahhh! I pretended to be all brave and held on my tear glands, but kept nursing the burn boil for over a week.

 

Lot of us would have had similar experiences of playing with fire and the effects of it. When I was 12, I accidentally dropped boiling hot oil on my feet, again it was by mistake and was my mistake. Even today when I look at those scars I remember the pain.

 

Recently, I saw another burn scar. This scar was on the legs and stomach of a 15 year old girl. And I thought what pain she would have gone through when she got burned and I remembered my little instances of life when I felt the twinge of burn. Speaking to the girl, she mentioned “ I poured kerosene on myself and lit myself up”. None of my experiences in life corresponded to this sort of event.

 

I had a few doubts of this girl’s behavior and now I was sure she was mentally unstable and had suicidal tendencies. Therefore deputed a counselor for her and also gave special instructions to the warden of the girls house to pay special attention on her.

 

We enquired of her background and met with her parents and siblings to get to know more. We came to know that she got so upset with her father’s abusive nature that one fine day she thought she will finish it all and therefore those scars.

 

This girl, in other instances, is a fighter. She is working hard to learn, to study and also want to be someone in life. Not only that, after being burned, her body became crocked and was bent, she was not able to use her right leg. Being from extremely poor background they could not afford any physio  and whatever little her mother gathered for her treatment was put to, what her father considered to be better use, “Drinking”. But this girl pulled herself with her own hands, straightened herself and now is absolutely fine except of those scars.

 

Now, this did not correspond with why she burned herself. A girl like her would rather fight than wanting to kill herself. So after many days, when I was counseling her as she was a bit low. She told me something I never anticipated. She said, “I burned myself but I did not wanted to kill myself”. My obvious question was, then why? She said, “My father was drunk and wanted to rape me”, and showing me her scars she said “this is how I wanted to present myself to him”. I looked at her scar again and now I could not feel the pain…

Written by Angelika Samuel Gier

It is time for a New Beginning

Some of you have had the pleasure of experiencing the transition from being individuals to parents to being a family. Some of you are on the way and rest will be there soon. The feeling is so simple yet so beautiful that it is hard to describe.

Catalyst, 3 months ago, took the risk of taking the responsibility to let this feeling be there for Ricky 18, and Sunita 15 who were living under a flyover till some time ago and sunita pregnant by 5+ months. They joined in our "Reboot" programhttp://www.catalystindia.in/whatwedo.aspx?projectid=16&projectname=Reboot 

Sunita, at the time of Joining Reboot

Now, it is anytime that Sunita will give birth to a new life, in a different environment than the others from their community.

And when i think about this child, and look at my daughter, i try to wonder what is the difference... nothing...and what will the difference be... immense...

I invite you all to think about this difference that is, and, which will be. Also think about how we can contribute to reduce this difference if at all we want this difference to be reduced.

I also invite you to contribute for the delivery process as it is a high risk for both the mother and the Child, it will cost around INR 20000. And then all that is needed for a new mother and the child as we believe all will go well by His Grace.

Let us all be a part of this New Beginning and make a better future.